The past few days have been quite interesting for me when it comes to dating etc etc in that someone I’d had a couple of dates with, got a bad case of the ex over new year (our dates were in 2008). Basically over new year she’d heard a piece of music that reminded her of her ex (who really messed with her head) and that got her thinking “was I the right kind of person for her”.
*shrugs*
After a couple of dates are you really ready to be thinking those kind of things… Have to say… i did good in that I just literally shrugged and said that if she had made that kind of decision that there was no way that i could or should try and change her mind.
All in all… it has been an interesting (re) introduction to the idea of progressive dating…. i’m sure 2009 will be …. bizarre
Internet dating…. how does it compare to dating in “The Real World” TM?
Well firstly take real world speed dating and times it by 1,000,000 …. people want results quickly, as fast as a single left mouse button click…. to jump from complete anonymity to totally besotted in the blink of an eye.
To be honest I think this is where most people go wrong and end up searching for what appears to be a millenia when really all they need to do is let Biology take control. We as mammals… and people form complex social bonds with people that take a while to form. Dont delude yourself into thinking that you can fall in love in 5 minutes… it takes time…. so…. put time in…
Don’t jump from person to person to person … moving on before you have had the time to fully find out if you like the person…. go by this simple …. well.. thing
5 minutes - if you can bear to be around the person.
5 dates - if you can share some mutual compatibility
5 months - if you can live with someone without ripping their head off
5 years - if you’d want to have kids with them
Stick to these .. …. Hey .. what do i know? trust your instincts… just give people a chance to express themselves and for you to feel comfy with them
Stay safe… be happy 
Sat in bed…. Amber at my side (cat)… listening to the Lancashire Hotpots.
Nice to hear the local accent :) I’ve heard that they have appeared at 53 Degrees so i’m a bit grrr that I didnt get chance to see them…
I think it’s time that I got back into blogging.
I havent given up on the whole politics thing with the Preston Lib Dems. Just that I really really have to concentrate on my career as that pays the bills. Currently a company director for Millers Taxis of Preston, as the techie / geek / dogsbody